4 Powerful Ways To Improve Your Relationships
As someone who is devoted to learning & growing in relationship, I know what it is like to read the latest relationship improvement books, listen to podcasts, & do the work to create a great relationship.
The crazy thing is…often I return to the most simplest of things. They enhance the connection in the relationship while bringing joy. They are steady & stand the test of time. Here are 4 of the most powerfully, loving ways to improve your relationships.
Authenticity- THE HEART OF WHO YOU ARE
It takes incredible courage to lower some defenses & show another person who you are. It can feel very vulnerable and yet it’s the fastest way to deepen your relationships. There is no better glue for connection than being vulnerability authenticity. Just think…of any of your favorite movie characters that won your heart by just being their quirky authentic self.
It’s true that people can smell BS a mile away. Being inauthentic for approval, to people please, or to “not rock the boat” is a form of self abandonment. It comes with a huge price. It not only hurts you but it can hurt your relationships over time.
I know! It"‘s risky as hell but if you want to go from mediocre relationship to an empowered deep connection and feel darn good about yourself in the process, let people see the real you.
The people who really love you, will love for who you are.
2. Presence
AMAZING relationship mojo doesn’t happen if we aren’t present. Not being present is a missed oppertunity! For a kiss, for deep belly laughs, & for fun times enjoying our moment together.
So put down the phone. Turn off the computer. Set aside QT (quality time) to be available. I get it that it it can be really challenging to slowing down & show up fully, but without your presence, your relationships can generate the love & connection you truly desire.
If getting present is challenging for you, ask yourself why? Dig deeper. Curious what might you be getting out of not being present? & How does that match or not with what is most important to you?
3. ENJOYMENT -THROUGH APPRECIATION
Appreciation in relationships keeps love alive. Most everyone likes to be appreciated, right? Appreciation is magic for helping people feel seen & valued.
Appreciation just feels good!
Not all appreciation comes in the same form so stay open & curious for how people are appreciating you & how you can appreciate others. Some people show appreciation through acts of service & kindness. Others show their appreciation in an affectionate touch, a good night text, or by making a yummy dinner. With your eyes open for these butterflies of “ I appreciated you” connection you will begin to see & create an abundance of goodness.
What’s your partner’s favorite way to be appreciated?
4. CURIOSITY
The longest lasting relationships include a curiosity about the other person that never dies. When we are curious we are saying I want to know more about you.
YOU interest me. Tell me more! YOU are my special person! Through curiosity we invite people into relationship.
With curiosity we can learn, grow, & explore together. With curiosity we can see people for the 1st time over & over again. Curiosity makes room for play, interest & enjoyment in our relationships.
